When You Love Yourself, You Love Others by Ngan

Have you ever experienced that ecstatic commotion when you find out he or she loves you? Those words mean: "I love you." You can feel that your heart races, your stomach flutters, and you finally find out that you also matter to someone. It doesn't have to be a lover. It can be positive feedback from your boss or a friend giving you some compliments. Or it can be from your parent who might be older or who is feeling sick says, "I love you so much even though I don't express it so much." However, it doesn't need to be love from others. Loving yourself can bring you happiness too.

Self-love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself. The strength of all your contacts is precisely equal to the power of that foundation. To love yourself is not just a self-esteem boosting piece of advice.

It is the prerequisite to truly loving others.

Why is self-love important?

People are busy all the time. We work hard every day and continually striving to surpass ourselves and grasp the shape-shifting phantasm of perfection. Most of the time, we are hard on ourselves; we do it because we're driven by a desire to excel and do everything right, all the time. Due to this, self-care may be needed to help us overcome the difficulties we have to face.

Moreover, we probably heard this often: you need to know how to love yourself first before loving others. How can you give love to others when you do not love yourself. When you love your self, you can love others.

Why when you love yourself, you love others?

First of all, you know you can count on yourself. We have to deal with many things every day, and sometimes you want to give up. Loving yourself brings you the courage to overcome a hard time. You believe in yourself. Even if you fall, you can always find a way to get up and continue walking your way.

Furthermore, when you believe and trust in yourself, you can help people without fear. You learn to accept yourself when no one is there to help you, and then you become a cheerleader. People sometimes are scared to help others because of some invisible feelings that they may harm you or affect your works. Self-love encourages yourself to stay motivated and to break barriers. Because of this, people will trust you, feel free to share problems with you, and become trustworthy. Being able to trust and count on yourself makes it easy for people to trust you.

Secondly, you make better choices. People's decisions are sometimes affected by other words; they tell you to do and not to do something, and then you make the wrong choices. You don't follow what you want and regret your decisions later. Some decisions may even affect your future, for example, career choices,... When you love yourself, you push away stress and stay positive. For any decisions in your life, you don't rush in making it. You take your time to evaluate things, choose what is best for your own self. You make decisions that prove the quality of your life and your relationship with people. For instance, if you choose to live a healthy lifestyle, eat and sleep well, you're saving your families and friends of stress by taking care of a sick person. This also affects the way you treat others because you can force them to make healthy decisions too.

Thirdly, you forgive easily. You easily let go grudges when you learn to love yourself. You can easily forgive anyone that offends you because you see those things that have already happened, and there's no way to control them. When someone does something that upset you, you do not keep it in your heart and suffer from it; you let it go and live your life. Keeping frustrating things doesn't bring you any benefits, it just brings you down, and you can not concentrate on other things. Hating people is not a solution to a problem. Also, you can accept responsibilities for each of your actions. You don't push the blame to someone else. You release the guilt you place for yourself for the harm others cost you, and the hold others have on you.

In conclusion, when you're too stubborn to realize that you're amazing, you start to throw away your boundaries. Eventually, you get stuck in a crowd of people who take advantage of your low self-esteem. You can lose yourself while giving your all to those around you who are only prioritizing themselves. Make people meet you halfway, don't accept less.

Support yourselves and each other. It's all just a part of your journey. Don't forget that you are strong and beautiful who deserve the world! Don't let anything stop you from your pursuit of happiness.

Just remember, you are worthy of love!

#Ngan